November 19, 2012 (41 weeks)
6:46p (48hr 1min "labor")
Nov 176:45p-had just finished vacuuming living room and kitchen. Then started washing some dishes in the kitchen and felt something running down my leg. Went to the bathroom and my pee was clear, crystal clear. I came back out and said, “umm, I think my water just broke”
I kept going to the bathroom and feeling dumb not knowing if it REALLY broke or not. I kept thinking. “this is the 3rd baby, surely I should know for sure, right?” (yes. my water broke with the first two)
We texted my midwife (Sandra) and told her that we were almost sure my water broke, but contractions had not changed any. Around 8min apart and 2min eachJD blew up the pool and started filling it with warm water
Went to bed around 11. Took me a while to go to sleep.Contractions still 7-8min apart 1 min each
Nov 18Woke up around 3am
Contractions were very sporadic 10min, 3 min, 4 min, 6 min, 3 min, fell back asleepUp at 5a - Took a shower, ate a piece of peanut butter toast, an apple and cup of raspberry leaf tea. Laid down on couch and fell back asleep
Kids woke me up at 7. We ate breakfast (I had a spinach smoothie) contractions were consistent 7 min apart 1 min each
Pads were dry all the time so I stopped putting them on and would lose a lot of fluid every time I went to the bathroomBaby was moving and heartbeat was great
Starting taking caullophyllum, cimicifuega & pulsatilla 3 of each every 20 min on rotationKids, hubby and dog went for a walk, I walked in circles around the house and sat on excersise ball
12:00n - Midwife came to check me for the first time. Thick and 2 cm, cervix very posterior. Started doing squats, hip circles, and lunges during contractions to help move cervix forward. Started to have stronger contraction. 5-6 min apart 1 min each1:30p - Had half pb sandwich pear and blackberries
Everything is the same as earlier..
4:45p - Tried the breast pump and pumped half an ounce of colostrum…it was so hard to dump that!!
Contractions went to 6-7 min apart then 4-5 and back to 6-7 getting frustrated, but could feel them starting in my pelvic floor and building up my stomach5:48p- 4-5 min apart 1 min ea
6:15p-Still able to talk through contractions, but can’t really walk or move during them. Ran out of pulsatilla started only doing c&C
6:45p - Sitting at the dinner table with legs on each side of the chair and leaning with my belly hanging. I was trying so hard to keep things normal for the kids and be a part of our family dinner, knowing it was going to be the last one as a family of 4.Now contractions were 3 min apart but same strength as early in the day
(all the above was written down…but this is when I stopped tracking so the rest is from memory)Sandra came over to check me again and see if I was progressing. Cervix was still very posterior and slightly thinner than earlier and now a 3. Not at all what I was expecting and I started crying I think or maybe I wanted to cry. At this point it had been 24 hours since my ‘water broke’ and law says she has to tell me that I should be transported to the hospital, but law also says I can decline. We declined. Risky, maybe, but we weren’t 100% sure my sac had broken because it was only leaky when I was on the toilet. So, we took the risk of staying at home.
We eventually went to sleep around 10, I think. Sandra slept on our couch and came in throughout the night to check our (mine and baby) vitals. I only know this because she told me. I had no clue and apparently slept really well all night.Nov 19
Woken up around 5 or 6 by a voicemail alert on J.D.’s phone – non baby related and stirred emotions. We let it off our chests and prayed it would not affect our day, our baby’s birth day.Sandra came in and we discussed the night, the vitals she got through the night, how we were thinking the day would go.
We got some breakfast and showers and of course I tried to tidy up the house despite Sandra and J.D. telling me to relax.At some point the kids woke up and my parents came over to keep the kids busy so we could concentrate on getting baby ready for birth.
Most of the day is a blur and times are really blurry, but that’s every day for me, ha!Mid-morning Sandra checked me again. I had made some progress, but not a lot. She went home for a little bit and we texted throughout the rest of the morning/afternoon.
I think it was around 1 or 2 that Sandra came back over. Things were getting very intense and we could tell it was the real deal. I kept wanting to get into the birth pool, but not wanting to rush things. I was laboring well on the bed on a pile of pillows. I would sit up and chat and laugh with J.D. and Sandra then as soon as a contraction came I would fall forward with my face in a pillow, on my elbows and knees rocking my hanging belly in all directions while praying and imagining baby making its way through the birth canal and breathing as slow and normal as I could stand.I attempted to use Hypnobirthing again like I did with Kennedy, but I just decided to use the principals of it and use a playlist of calm Christian songs. I listened to it a lot throughout the pregnancy. Many of the songs became prayers and some of them were literal-my favorite was Hold me still by Forever Jones.
“Cause you hold me still when the waves around begin to build…Oh, I see the waves I’m not afraid…My ground is stable…”If you have read Hypnobirthing you know the significance of waves with contractions. So I held this words of truth close to me and sang them out (maybe…I think I did, but I never asked anyone if I was singing out loud)
At some point Sandra checked and my cervix was maybe a 5 and still very posterior and I had told her about my birth experience with Kennedy and ‘stalling at 8cm’ so she pulled my cervix forward with several contractions. Yes, incredibly painful, but Sandra was so gentle and the experience was far better than it was with Kennedy’s birth. I told her I thought that was enough and I was ready to get in the pool. Around 5-5:30 we think.Big kids joined me for a bit at some point. Things were getting intense with contractions and kids were getting crazy so Sandra suggested they leave the room so I can stay in my zone.
J.D. notified his parents and our birth photographer (who was already on her way) that it was time to head our way.It was hard to labor in the pool. I wanted to get back to my routine with the pillow pile, but I knew I also wanted the water birth (that I did not get with Kennedy) and of course the warm water feels so good and it offers so much relief. So, I would relax in the sitting position slightly leaned back between contractions. When the contractions came oh boy..my stomach would contract and take over my whole body. It would pull me forward and I had to follow and throw myself over with my arms on the pool and my face just on the inside with my belly hanging and my legs tucked under me.
Sandra kept dropping homeopathic tablets under my tongue to help me out. She was a God sent and I could write for days about how much I love her and how thankful I am for her.With the other two births I had tried to push them out-their births did not go the way I had wanted and it was a lot of frustration that I was trying to get them to me as fast as possible. With this birth I was able to let my body completely take over. What an amazing experience to see how God created my body for this very thing. My abs would pull towards the middle and push down with more intensity than I could ever do on my own. Amazing!!
At the end of a contraction (I remember seeing the clock say 6:?? ) I heard and felt a bomb explode. I sat up and asked if they heard it. They did not hear or feel anything. They did tell me later than I had a lot of bubbles pop up. Oh..NOW my water broke. Ok..huge relief. Now, that 24 hour ‘rule’ is no longer an issue. We have as much time as we need..phew!After a few more contractions his head was out and I reached down and said, “ohhhh there’s his nose” (So glad my mom got it all on video)
It seems like forever before the next contraction came and I asked if they could just pull him out.Then J.D. says “baby, it’s your song” and turns up the music. It was !0,000 reason by Matt Redman. I had had dreams about the baby being born to that song..a very specific point in the song.
The last contraction finally came and baby was caught by daddy for half a second before I snatched him up to the face to cover him in kisses. There are no pictures of baby being born and after watching the video and hearing Carey’s camera clicks…now I know just how fast I pulled him up. Oops..I wanted those amazing photos of baby still in water, give baby time to adjust and all those other benefits to a water birth.
|daddy catching baby-you can see the splash from my arm|
After a couple minutes (now Jesus loves Me by Christy Nockels – so happy God made my random playlist not so random at just the perfect time) J.D. walks to the side and announces that he was right, he called it before I took a pregnancy test. It’s a BOY!!
a HUGE thank you to...
-my amazing husband for being my biggest supporter and best birth partner. you are my strength. I love you!!
-my midwife, Sandra McDonald. I don't even know how to put into words how much she means to me. If you need a midwife, you're in the Houston area, use her..unless we are due at the same time, I get dibs :)
-my friend and photographer, Carey. I roped her into birth photography, but she is an awesome family and senior photographer.
all photos are copyright of carey anne photography.